Thursday, February 28, 2013


I've never met this family, but they live a few short blocks from where I live, and they are friends and former neighbors of our kids.  Last Saturday, one of her 2 brothers found the body of little 3 year old 'Sammy' (Samantha) in their swimming pool..

I, like probably most of the people in our city, have shared their grief and prayed without ceasing for this family during these days. Today at 1 is the funeral at Lakepointe Church. As I was out doing errands this morning, I drove past our church and couldn't stop the tears as I thought of this mom and dad and the tiny casket that would be there in just a few hours.

As I thought of them last night, I began a note to let them know that I am praying for them. What God gave my heart as I prayed, was this...

"God knew exactly to the final second, how long Sammy's life would be, long before she was born. He also knew what parents and brothers she would be entrusted to for those short years. They would have to be very special, as He knew how deeply loved He wanted this child to be, and how short her time on this earth was going to be.

Doug & Ann, you were hand picked to be Sammy's mommy and daddy. What a life changing privilege for both of you, to be her parents, to love and cherish her and to be her family. Bryan and Ben, God knew Sammy would need 2 very special boys to be her brothers, and He put this exact family together... the family He chose. He could have chosen anyone, He chose YOU, all 4 of you.

Somehow, in all the pain, I pray that your comfort will also be that last Saturday, when Sammy went to be with Jesus, to be held in His loving arms, was the exact day that He had planned. Not a minute or hour sooner, or later. Nothing could change that, God had already ordained it... He knew.

The heart of our Father also understands the deep grief you are bearing. When He sent Jesus, He sent His only son, and He felt the pain of a fathers heart. He holds every tear that you shed, in a special place with your names on it.

Sammy will always be your little girl and your sister. When you get to heaven, you will be the ones she runs to."...

Somehow just sharing this helps. I ask for your prayers for this family. Pain strikes the grieving heart without warning, and they  will have a long road ahead.

Knowing God, and knowing that He holds all of life in His hands, the beginning and the end, is going to be their strength, as it is for each one of us.


NanaNor's said...

Dear Sonja, What a touching, grace filled note to Sammy's family you've written. It is interesting that when I was in 5th grade, I found a baby in the bottom of a pool; thankfully the child's life was saved but I can still remember it clearly. Praying too for this family and for His comfort and grace to carry them.
Hugs, Noreen

Debbie said...

Oh Sonja I am just in tears over here. How these tragedies touch my heart. Your note was perfect. I too lift this precious family to His throne, and pray that His comfort will be felt by all of them. Hugs!

Kathleen said...

Of all the tragedies that can befall a family, I believe the loss of a child must be among the worst of the worst. This just breaks my heart. Praying for that bereaved family, and thankful for the faithful prayer you've shared.

Sandy said...

I am so saddened to read of this precious little girl's passing. How beautiful she was. I have prayed for this dear family and know that your prayer for them will be a comfort.

Farm Girl said...

The poor baby. I am so sorry, I will lift them up in prayer.

Felisol said...

Dear Sonja.
I will now start my day praying for the four grieving members of the family.
It's a good thing to be allowed taking part in this prayer circle.

Debbie said...

The words that God put in your heart to give this family were very truly handwritten by Him for you.

I have always struggled with the right words for such a time as this. I'm positive that God used you in a mighty way to bring His peace to this family.

Just heartbreaking.
What a beautiful little girl she is.

manthano said...

That makes us all hurt.
But really appreciate your showing
how it all is in the hand of God.

Lea @ CiCis Corner said...

Oh, how sad but what a gorgeous, heartfelt note! May the Lord hold them tightly in the days, weeks and months ahead. Happy weekend!

Just a little something from Judy said...

Reading your post today sure does put life in perspective doesn't it? With my five little ones here this weekend, I was reminded again of how brief our time here can be. My heart breaks for this dear family! It just breaks. I know what you so profoundly shared is most true, but oh, my heart does feel so sad. Thanks for sharing so that I can pray for them.

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

I cannot imagine such grief, Sonja. Yes, words have a way of helping us grieve. I'm glad for the ones you've shared here.

Peace and prayers,

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

I cannot imagine such grief, Sonja. Yes, words have a way of helping us grieve. I'm glad for the ones you've shared here.

Peace and prayers,

Debbie Petras said...

I cannot imagine the grief over losing a child like this. What a heart felt prayer Sonja. I agree that writing words in this prayer are helpful. And Jesus is holding this little girl.


Sharon said...

Oh, how tragic. And Sonja, your words to them are just so wonderful, so blessed, so comforting. I know that they will be filled and consoled with the sentiments that you are passing on to them.

My only aunt recently passed away. Many, many years ago, she lost a son just hours after he was born. One of the first things I thought of when I heard that she had died, was that she was going to get to see her son again...

Somehow, that image was very heartwarming...

GOD BLESS - and may He particularly be with this dear grieving family.

myletterstoemily said...

i'm sure your letter brought much
consolation to the poor parents.
what a terrible blow, but we know
God's grace is sufficient. i pray
even now that He will surround
them with His loving hands.